"My wife and I have been married 16 years."
“Any particular reason?”
“I was just never sure I wanted to have a child. And I always thought that with a decision that big, it was better not to guess and be wrong. I’ve just always had this anxiety about fulfilling myself and accomplishing my dreams. I love kids, and I love my friends’ kids, but I just didn’t think there’d be room in my life for a child. Some of the parents I know think that not having a child is a selfish decision to make. But then again, a lot of those same people, after two or three beers, have told me that they envy my freedom.”
I learned from someone a while back (from whom I can’t remember) that the choice to not have children is not, in fact, rooted in selfishness. Not that I needed any reassurances about my decision, but that little nugget of wisdom sits well with me as I continue to watch others adapt to parenthood—and while my husband and I plan our next endeavor(s).